In order to be uniquely you
you have to drop the comparison
Marie Forleo calls it comparison-schlager
You might not realise you are doing it because you do it so much it’s become second nature
Or you might just drop into comparison crushing when you feel really bad
and really want to beat yourself up about being so worthless
Either way it’s not going to do you any good
even if you think you’re right about it
Phrases like
Oh she always looks so good
She has a great house, I’ll never have a house like that
or
She has a great job and loads of help around the house unlike me
are useless to think
They don’t do you any good
There are lots of great phrases around the uselessness of comparing yourself with another
Why be a second-rate someone else when you can be a first-rate you
is probably my favourite
Instead of allowing your brain to make unfavourable comparisons with others
Use it to be self-affirming
To encourage yourself
One of your major tasks in this life is learning to be you
I recommend self encouragement as a way to do this.
In my post on Your Unique Style I write about not comparing yourself with others and discovering your unique style. If you’d like to read the full post on Finding your Unique Style and read more on how to develop easy ways to develop positive body image it’s available here.
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