Get Unstuck: How to reset when life gets you down

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Some transformation is hard

Learning to change can be hard

Losing weight can be hard

Getting in shape can be hard

Transforming your financial pattern from in debt to debt-free can be hard

Many women find the daily ongoing decision of what to wear hard

You may feel like this

It feels like too much of a decision to make and

you don’t feel qualified to make it

You feel a bit stuck

But you don’t know how to become unstuck

Over the years I’ve heard the same stories again and again

I don’t know what to wear

I feel overwhelmed by my clothes

I don’t have anything to wear

I’m not confident about my style

I don’t have time to shop

I don’t have time for myself

I get it

I totally understand

If you feel that good style and great clothes are for someone else

and not you

then I’m here to encourage you

And I’m here to help

I know the power of transformation first hand

And I’ve seen it in my clients too

What most women need is a guide to set them on the right path

Someone to point them in the direction of transformation and remind you that it is available to all

Women are beautiful and handsome and pretty and clever

and funny and capable and resourceful

But sometimes we forget that

I’m here to remind you

You are awesome

Sometimes we just need a helping hand and a structure to start to look and feel amazing

Transformation happens

And then you wonder how you lived before

You feel better

There is a spring in your step

At Working Frocks we offer a 3-Day Wardrobe Detox

Totally free

It’s my gift to all women everywhere

It’s the start of a transformation process that could change your life.

Do you feel stuck and want to become unstuck?

To feel free

And calm

And in control of your life

Well step this way

 

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If you like this styling tip on feeling good there are other blog posts on the subject of feeling better:

Stop feeling guilty about clothes you don’t wear

Stop wearing mediocre clothes, get rid of them and get a better life

How working women succeed at work by paying attention to what they wear at home

 

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Body Postive

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Turning your body anxieties into body positives

Is that possible

Well yes it is

Pay attention to what you wear

how you feel when you wear it

and what you are telling yourself

Instead of thinking that your body shape has huge flaws and you can never look good

Change your thinking

What was a handicap

start to think of as an advantage

The first step to looking great

is accepting yourself

Just as you are

Yes just as you are

Don’t think

I’ll be happy when I lose weight

or

I’d be happy if I didn’t have a small bust

or

large hips

or

no ankles

or

big arms

or

whatever

Why wait

You can choose to be happy today

And you can choose to feel good about your body today

Happiness doesn’t rely on you losing weight

or toning up

Happiness

is a decision

Your body anxieties

Everyone has them

Well not everyone

Some people don’t

As women

our body shape changes greatly

Adolescence can bring puppy fat

Adulthood can bring child bearing

with a great change in body shape and size

Menopause can bring another change in shape and size

Anxiety is totally understandable

Don’t feel bad about that

But don’t stay in that place of anxiety either

Remember that you are not alone

Many women have body anxiety so you’re not the only one

Anxiety can make us feel isolated

like we are on our own

But that is not true

Secondly we all have redeeming features

If your levels of self rejection are high

you might find it hard to acknowledge that you are beautiful and unique

in your own way

Body anxiety is often a comparison between

ourselves and others and finding ourselves lacking

A piece of advice

Stop comparing yourself

Making comparisons robs you of the joy of your uniqueness

Body anxiety can be fear-led

You fear being you

because being you feels like exposure

and remaining in a state of body anxiety feels like hiding and safety

But it isn’t safe

it’s a slow death of the unique you

which you probably already know

We all feel scared and vulnerable until we dive into life

Like standing on the edge of the swimming pool

It looks cold

You need to get in the water

The best way is to jump or dive right in

Going in slowly is excrutiatingly cold

But diving in

is exhilarating

and refreshing

and bracing

and makes you feel alive

So dive in

Dive into accepting yourself your body shape

You

You are you

And that’s great

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At Working Frocks we want all women to have the enjoyment and freedom of looking and feeling amazing every day.

Other blog posts to encourage you can be found here:

How to look your best every day and boost your self esteem

How what you wear affects your attitude and your confidence (and what to do about it)

Retail therapy: Why you should deal with your mind out before you go shopping

 

Working Frocks runs a 3-day wardrobe detox

It’s all about clearing out your wardrobe, making space for clothes you do want to wear

and always having the right outfit to wear without stress or overwhelm or beating yourself up

But really this detox is all about your emotions

About how you feel and about how you want to feel

It’s about sorting out those emotions that lead to overbuying

so that your wardrobe is crammed with clothes, some of which you’ve never worn.

It’s about why you are holding onto clothes that you last wore 10 years ago

It’s about opening the door to your wardrobe and not being overwhelmed by negativity and low self worth.

But instead it’s about opening the wardrobe door

and feeling joy and happiness and peace and self love.

Cone on the journey

Come and feel good

Would you like to get your wardrobe organised once and for all?  While you have the time and we are all at home, why not join us for our 3-step wardrobe detox plan?  It’s completely free to join and you’ll benefit from an organised wardrobe containing clothes which fit you really well and which you love.  Not only that but we will give you the tools you need to maintain your good work so that it doesn’t all pile up all over again!  Join here:

Sign up form for 3-day wardrobe detox

 

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How to feel good

Most women just want to feel better

Feeling good is entirely within our control

It doesn’t rely on external circumstances

or other people

or the amount of money you have

or don’t have

Emotions are created in your mind

not in the fridge

There is nothing that you can do that will change the way you feel

It’s actually all in your mind

You might say to me

But you’re a dress designer don’t you think your clothes make women feel better

And I would say

It’s what you feel about those clothes that will make you feel happy or not

Of course there are external influences about having a dress made

or buying something

and it fitting you perfectly and fitting your idea of what you want to wear

You can control how you feel which is very powerful

To have enough control over yourself that you can dictate how you feel

puts you in a powerful position over yourself

At Working Frocks we run a 3-day wardrobe detox

It’s all about clearing out your wardrobe, making space for clothes you do want to wear

and always having the right outfit to wear without stress or overwhelm or beating yourself up

But really this detox is all about your emotions

About how you feel and about how you want to feel

It’s about sorting out those emotions that lead to overbuying

so that your wardrobe is crammed with clothes, some of which you’ve never worn.

It’s about why you are holding onto clothes that you last wore 10 years ago

It’s about opening the door to your wardrobe and not being overwhelmed by negativity and low self worth.

But instead it’s about opening the wardrobe door

and feeling joy and happiness and peace and self love.

Cone on the journey

Come and feel good

 

If you like this styling tip on feeling good there are other blog posts on the subject of feeling better:

Stop feeling guilty about clothes you don’t wear

Stop wearing mediocre clothes, get rid of them and get a better life

How working women succeed at work by paying attention to what they wear at home

 

If you enjoy these tips, why not join the Working Frocks list?  We only email you on everything that is styling and clothes.  We aim to only give you useful, helpful advice that will make your life run better and bring a smile to your face.  You can join here:WF sign up to list form

Would you like to get your wardrobe organised once and for all?  While you have the time and we are all at home, why not join us for our 3-step wardrobe detox plan?  It’s completely free to join and you’ll benefit from an organised wardrobe containing clothes which fit you really well and which you love.  Not only that but we will give you the tools you need to maintain your good work so that it doesn’t all pile up all over again!  Join here:

Sign up form for 3-day wardrobe detox

 

Dress like an A-lister

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It may be that you feel that a beautiful collection of clothes is only available to

the A-lister group, royalty, heads of state and of large international companies

I can understand that

It’s convenient to think that somewhere else someone has a better life than you

evidenced by the wonderful wardrobe full of carefully chosen clothes that all suit each other

shoes for every occasion and the perfect accessory for every outfit

that someone else has

This is not true though

It might be a story that you are telling yourself because you don’t feel you deserve better

However it is totally realistic to expect to have a beautiful collection of clothes to wear

whatever your age, income level and life situation

Here’s a quick lowdown on what you need to do

Wake up every day to a beautiful collection of clothes

Wear clothes you love and actively engage with what you want to wear

Don’t sleep walk through life in your pyjamas or your jogging bottoms

Stop buying clothes intermittently and ad hoc

Be intentional about what you wear

Only buy items you want to buy

Stop buying random tee shirts cardigans and tops

just because you want to buy something

They don’t serve you

Buy for the long term

Buy the best quality you can

Plan ahead for the sales and buy large luxury items then

If you can’t afford to buy the best quality you would like

You can look equally good in charity shops or thrift shop purchases

it all comes down to planning and taking action

Plan ahead, plan seasonally, and plan for events

Plan to look good at Christmas

at the airport

at the school gate

at home

Every day is an opportunity to look your best

Keep a wardrobe list of items you have and items you want

You keep a budget for everything else

well your wardrobe is no different

Keep a tally of what you’ve got

that’s when you discover you’ve got six black skirts that you don’t like

when you could be wearing something you really look great in

Keeping a tally helps you to budget and to monitor what is in your wardrobe

Refine your style

A-listers are known for their particular style

Develop your own style

Just concentrate on that

Don’t look around and compare yourself to others

Just concentrate on your own life

on your own lane

That’s when you discover that you are the A-lister of your own life

and that’s when your life starts to change

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A longer blog post on the subject of A-list style and how to make it your own can be found here:

How to dress like an A-lister

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Would you like to get your wardrobe organised once and for all?  While you have the time and we are all at home, why not join us for our 3-step wardrobe detox plan?  It’s completely free to join and you’ll benefit from an organised wardrobe containing clothes which fit you really well and which you love.  Not only that but we will give you the tools you need to maintain your good work so that it doesn’t all pile up all over again!  Join here:Sign up form for 3-day wardrobe detox

 

Dress like an A-lister, and why we are all A-listers now

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How to dress like an A-lister

A beautiful collection of clothes

A beautiful collection of clothes, like we think an A-lister would wear, must be something that we all long for.  Judging by the number of articles written on creating a perfect capsule wardrobe or on clearing out the clutter, women feel that the clothes that they have in their wardrobe and what they wear could do with either some fine tuning or the services of a bulldozer.

What we wear is fundamental to our life-experience.  Our clothes and our emotions are closely intertwined, in a close dance with each other day in day out.  We know this because when we sigh, “and I don’t have a thing to wear,” it is usually the final straw in feeling out of sorts with oneself, which started earlier in the day with something else entirely.

Read moreDress like an A-lister, and why we are all A-listers now

1970s vibe

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The 1970s are having a moment

Let’s do it let’s have some fun

Let’s inject a little 1970s wild child into our small lives

made smaller by the pandemic by fear by the unknown

Let’s leave behind our work wardrobe

and the leggings we’ve been in since March

and have some fun with our clothes

What will you choose

Jumpsuit / trouser suit

shirtdress

shorts or culottes

halterneck

any kind of cheesecloth

blazer

What accessories will you choose

Oversized sunnies

headscarf tied at the nape of the neck

leather satchel bag

platform shoes

There is so much to choose from

We’ve written a blog post on it if you want more information

The point is to have a little fun

To take great enjoyment in what you are wearing

just enjoy it for its own sake

We lost that a little on the way

Even in the midst of a crisis and the unknown

We can still take delight in the small pleasures

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Read the full article here: How to wear 1970s style for your body shape

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How to rock the 1970s fashion vibe in a 2020 way // How to wear 1970s fashion to suit your body shape

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Fashion comes and goes.  Decades come and go and at the moment, the 1970s are having a revival.

The 1970s, or the “me decade” as Tom Wolfe called it, began with women having a wide choice of what to wear so that they no longer had to conform to one look or style in fashion at that moment.   They could be whoever they wanted to be on any given day.

The gypsy look flourished, hand crafts, exotic looks.  At the same time, the alternative to this expressive look was the rise of the mix and match capsule wardrobe.

One of the aspects of 1970s fashion that I admire is that it reflects, to me, an equality of the sexes.  80s fashion somehow looks like women have to be like the boys to join the game: big shoulders, large hair and high heels designed to leave you in no doubt at all about who was in charge.  Powerplay.

Read moreHow to rock the 1970s fashion vibe in a 2020 way // How to wear 1970s fashion to suit your body shape

Mega Belt

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The wide belt is making a comeback

This is great news for curvy shapes everywhere

It’s a chance to accentuate the very positive

Grab yourself one now

They can be worn with all types of garments

Over a silk shirt and trousers combination

With a dress

With a skirt and tee shirt combination

either a straight skirt or gathered

it can be really relaxed or formal

the belt will add the finishing touch.

A wide belt is great

because you can play with your silhouette

pull more fabric out above the belt

and make it blousy

or keep it straight and severe

Replace same fabric belts with a wide belt

for an instant outfit update

Wide belts can look great with coats

just don’t make it look too contrived, too studied

It needs to look effortless

Don’t try and over coordinate it

don’t over accessorise it

Let it speak for itself

Apple and rectangle shapes look better with the belt resting closer to the hips

rather than on the waist

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New You

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There is always a chance for a new start

A new you

At any moment in time

you can decide

on a new you

This is a great way to not be hard on yourself or self condemming

At every moment you can start again

which means

leave the old behind

and forget about it

A new start does not mean

drag the past along with you

Had a bad day

Start again

Didn’t exercise

Start again

Felt rubbish

Start again

There is no past to run to

It’s gone

Good bye sayonara auf wiedersehn au revoir so long

So what will you do

Dye your hair

Change your look

Have a different attitude

Clothes are a great way to help your new you

What are you going to stop wearing

What are you going to start wearing

Different jewellery

A change in style

Stop wearing cardigans

Start wearing slinky clothes

that wrap round your body

Remember who you are and who you want to be

We are not set in stone

immovable

defined by decisions we made years ago

You can change your decisions today

Decide what you want

and just do it

Should I shouldn’t I

Give it a go

If you don’t like it

a new you is coming up in the next second

and you can try something else

This is great

It takes away the misery of blaming yourself for something that wasn’t quite right 20 years ago

It doesn’t matter

because a new you opportunity is available now

And now

And now

Why didn’t I dress better

Why didn’t I act more professionally

Why didn’t I take advantage of opportunity

Why didn’t I just go for it

It doesn’t matter

Because now is a new you moment

And you can do something different

What will your new you look like?

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Body Shape

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Whatever your shape be proud

Make it your life long ambition to learn to love it

When you’re compassionate to your body

you learn to love yourself

We all have part of our body that we love

and other parts that we’re not so proud of

But if you can be compassionate to yourself

you can learn to love both parts equally

I find that quite hard

But all of you is all of you

You’re not just the good bits

or even not just the bits you don’t like

So either you beat yourself up about them and constantly tell yourself

you’re no good or not as good as other women

Or you don’t

The choice is yours

Don’t worry that you “can’t wear” a certain piece of clothing

I’d love to wear really straight trousers but I really don’t have the right shape

or

I’d love to wear high heels but I’m just too tall.

Either wear them anyway – I mean why not

Or just move on

Wear something that really looks amazing

3 steps to accepting your own body shape

Decide to accept yourself just as you are

Dress each day with care and compassion choosing clothes that you really want to wear

Stop speaking negatively about yourself to others and to yourself

Seriously ditch that negative self talk

We just have this life

You and your body are in it together so why not get on and learn to love each other

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Would you like to get your wardrobe organised once and for all?  While you have the time and we are all at home, why not join us for our 3-step wardrobe detox plan?  It’s completely free to join and you’ll benefit from an organised wardrobe containing clothes which fit you really well and which you love.  Not only that but we will give you the tools you need to maintain your good work so that it doesn’t all pile up all over again!  Join here:Sign up form for 3-day wardrobe detox