Setting personal goals with Lose 5, Stylise, Organise

Lose 5, Stylise, Organise

Setting personal goals, and then achieving them, can be hard work especially with everything else that clamours for our time. It’s easy to deprioritise ourselves in order to prioritise others: work; family; responsibilities.

Building momentum, through continually achieving goals you set yourself, can be impossible if you don’t have a framework that will ensure your success.

So today I’m sharing with you the framework for our new course, “Lose 5, Stylise, Organise” to show you how you can set and achieve your personal goals.

The net result is that not only do you achieve your personal goals, but the momentum you create in keeping your word to yourself sets the ball rolling for creating more change and more results that you want to see, but maybe which felt like you were never going to achieve.

Now to be specifc we are talking about three particular goals here:

The first is:

Lose 5lbs

For many years I struggled to stick to a diet of any description because I hadn’t learned to manage my mind. I liked the idea of sticking to a plan, it seemed so simple and straightforward. However sticking to that plan was a lot harder until I discovered how to manage my mind through the process.

Most of us who just need to shift a few pounds don’t need medical intervention to help us lose weight healthily, we just need a structure that will help us get there quickly and easily and a plan to manage our minds when we want to deviate from the structure.

Also I certainly do not want to advocate that women should only feel good about themselves if they maintain a certain weight level or number. I would love us all to be free of  the scales and free from the idea that we have to eat certain foods and certain amounts of food, in order to be acceptable to ourselves.

However, we all feel uncomfortable when we are over our natural weight. Comfort eating is a real thing (chocolate, crisps, wine, cheese….. ). So it’s very easy to put on an extra four pounds that stop us feeling great and make us uncomfortable in our clothes. Losing 5lbs gained over the holidays or through the various lockdowns that we have had can be rejuvenating and energising. It can kick start a renewed zest for life because we all feel so much better when we feel in control of our lives and when we are treating our bodies well.

Maintaining a healthy weight is an easy act of self care that we can give our bodies.

Maybe you know this feeling. You’re happy overall but you’d just like to drop a few pounds, look and feel better in your clothes and then get on with your life!

Our clothes fit better and we feel more energised and enthusiastic about life when we are not carrying around extra weight. 5lbs is a realistic goal and is large enough to make a difference in your clothes and energise you to tackle all other areas of your life too.

The Lose 5 framework

In our new programme, Lose 5, Stylise, Organise, you pick the diet you want to follow and we support you to follow it through to success. You can choose the meat option, the vegetarian option and the mixed option. We know diets work, so just pick the one you want to follow.  We know that diets fail because we don’t stick to them. So we’ll give you the mental tools you need to help you stick to the diet. 

In Lose 5, Stylise, Organise we follow a two-week sprint process to get our weight loss well underway, and then we have a two-week phase that ensure you can still lose weight but with a little more flexibility in what you eat and drink.

Stylise

I have so much to say here, but I’ll keep it short and sweet for now and relevant to you. In my years as a designer, each time I created an outfit for my client, they would say something like,

“It’s amazing the transformation you can have when you throw a little time and money at yourself.”

“I can’t believe how great I look. I look like me”.

“This is exactly how I want to look. Thank you”.

Helping women look and feel their best is a passion of mine and it all started when I started designing clothes for private clients.

It’s important to keep a check on where you are in life and if you are reflecting your current life stage in your personal style.

In Lose 5, Stylise, Organise we will take you through the process of recreating your unique style. We will ask questions and encourage you to think deeply about who you are and how you want to show up in the world.

We will spend one week focussing entirely on you and your personal style.  In conjunction with detoxing your wardrobe and organising your personal space these two elements will show you how to become the person you want to be.

To wear clothes each day but not to feel like the person you want to be will only result in you wearing the old, tattered clothes that we default to. Working on your personal style and your personal wardrobe is a mind process and we will take you through the steps needed to make change permanent in your mind.

Finally

Organise

The organise stage of the course is the vital third leg of our three-legged stool! I have written before on the fact that there are more emotions in your wardrobe than clothes.  We dump not only unworn, unwanted clothes in our wardrobes, but also the unwanted, ignored emotions too. Clothes in your wardrobe that are too small and don’t fit will probably create emotions in you to do with being overweight, shame and guilt. Clothes that you last wore in a former time such as when you were married, or the last job you had may also bring up unwanted emotions when you see them.

So each time you open your wardrobe, you are faced with the recreation of all these emotions. Which is exhausting. And will stop you moving forward in your life.

In Lose 5, Stylise, Organise we take all of your clothes and we deal with them. But also, and this is a unique part of our course we also deal with the emotions that are lurking each time you open your wardrobe.

During the course we take a week to deal with all your clothes, to organise your space and make it fit and ready for you as you move on from our time together.

Think of what you could achieve in a month.

Think of the support you will get from us and from other women in the community.

It’s not just about the weight, or the clothes, or being tidy and organised.

It’s about what you think about yourself and what you think you are capable of.

Why not join us and find out?

 

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New Year, New You – How to implement and maintain a “new you”

Here we are at the start of a new year. If there is one time in the year when we make goals, plans and dreams it is this time of year.

Exercise, diet and financial goals are big topics for new year’s resolutions.
We start with the greatest of intentions but statistics show that the majority of people forget their new year’s resolutions after about 3 weeks and then return to their old pattern of behaviour.

Creating your own personal clothing protocol, maintaining an organised wardrobe and understanding your own unique style are empowering resolutions to make and here at Working Frocks we are designing systems and courses for you to join which will help you design, create and implement your “new you”.

Read moreNew Year, New You – How to implement and maintain a “new you”

Who do you want to be? How to decide what you want in life

How did you decide what you want in life? Did you go after it with everyting you’ve got, grab every chance with both hands and pursue your decision relentlessly?

A world full of people, and women in particular, deciding what they want, going for it, achieving it and celebrating themselves is a real possibility. But not all of us have either decided what we really want or are relentlessly pursing it to fruition.

Read moreWho do you want to be? How to decide what you want in life

Starting the new year

Happy new year!

2022

What will you do? The year stretches out in front of you. 365 days for you to do exactly what you want.

So what is it that you want to do?

I have been thinking very much these past few weeks. About changing my style. And about why I would want to change it now. What is the catalyst that is driving this restlesness that I feel and disatisfaction with what I wear and how I look.

Change.

It’s the change. My life is changing. My business is growing and I want to show up in a better kind of way. My personal life is changing and there might be a wedding on the horizon. And it is creating a dissatisfaction with the status quo. With how things have been. Clothes that I once wore seem wrong. Dated. Out of place. Dull.

How are you feeling about the new year?  Do you want a fresh start? Is something niggling you, irritating you and you don’t know quite what?

Clothes are not just clothes.  We use them to express how we feel as much as to cover up our bodies and be comfortable.

So if you feel uncomfortable in your clothes. Or out of sorts. And something doesn’t feel quite right, the chances are that something is happening in your life. So don’t ignore that sense of disatisfaction.

The important question is what are you going to do about it?  What do you want to do about it?

I can help with that. I can help you organise your thoughts and your clothes.  The two added together will make quite an impact on your life.

So keep a journal.  Say, for a week. Write down your thoughts. How you are feeling. What you want to achieve this year. What’s on your mind. I’m going to be explaining what you can do with these thoughts and writings over the month of January. So take this week to explore your own mind.

And then we will get to work. And set your course for 2022.

Happy new year!

My best tip for having a great day

Get your wardrobe organised: Creating a framework of what to wear every day.

Do you wake up in the morning and your heart sinks when you start to think about the day, about getting up, and what you are going to wear?

Does your day unravel before it’s even started?

Do you wish you could go back to bed and not have to face the day?

Read moreMy best tip for having a great day

Creating community: Why reDRESS

For a long while I thought about creating a community, club, group, not sure what I would call it, for women. It would be a place for women to come and feel well and restored.

It would not be a place to recover from physical illness. Rather it would be a place to become mentally whole. A place to be rid of self-limiting and self-berating beliefs that we feel about ourselves. It would be a place to restore ourselves back to a time and place where we thought we were invincible, where we could achieve anything, where success was ours for the taking.

That place still exists. It runs deep within us. The water still flows. Somehow a long upwards staircase took us away from the deep well of running water. The source of ourselves. One day we found ourselves in an arid land, a place where the heat is intense, where there is no shade. We are overwhelmed with burden and we don’t know where to go to relieve ourself of this burden.

We blame ourselves for finding ourselves in this situation and heap self-condemnation onto burden.

We try and find escape routes from our burden: smoking, drinking, overeating, all the body things that feel so good in the moment but actually don’t help at all. And, in addition, we acquire addictive habits that are hard to break.

The club that I was going to create was to help women return to wholeness. To remove the barnacles and wounds that we inflict on ourselves and return to that lightness and joy that once was ours.

At the same time I have a love for clothes that is not described in terms of fashion. It is not about fashion. It is about how beautiful, strong, empowered and unique we feel when we wear clothes that we love. It is about how much better we feel when we are wearing clothes which mirror how we feel on the inside, in our interior world. It is about the relationship between the inner you and the outer you. In fact I call this the Zone of Peace. It is where the inner you meets the outer you. And I used my wardrobe styling advice to talk about this.

So, I have these two passions and they existed independently in my mind. Until one day, I had a thought baby. A thought baby is where two independent ideas come together and create something new, something which hasn’t been created yet.

And this is how the idea for reDRESS was born. And this is what makes reDRESS unique, the fusion of these two concepts: The wardrobe styling aspect where I offer advice and styling tips for looking your best every day; and the idea of a club to help women return to a wellness state of hope, anticipation and excitement.

So this is the story of how I thought up reDRESS. It’s an online community for women to address all your personal style issues: From totally transforming your personal style, to losing a few pounds, taking care of your body or just tweeking your personal style and finding your own unique zone of peace. And also to work on your mind, your thoughts and beliefs to help you return to that deep flowing river, that source of all you are.

Why not come on the journey with reDRESS? Doors open soon, so get on the waiting list and be the first fo find out when you can join. We guide you through all the steps you need to take each month with tutorials, videos and live sessions. Just think where you could be in a year’s time if you let go of all that hinders you and return to your real, whole, original self.

I look forward to seeing you in reDRESS.

Have a great day

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You want to change your life but don’t know how. Why not start with your clothes?

Change your life when you don’t know what to change

A lot has changed for me in the past few years, much of it outside of my control and most of it challenging in one way or another.

Do you feel the same?

I feel nervous and anxious about the future. I worry about dying, about my life being over before it has truly started. I worry about the children leaving home. I am sad that I can see myself ageing, my life seems so fleeting.

Do you have those thoughts too?

Read moreYou want to change your life but don’t know how. Why not start with your clothes?

Self creation: 2 stages to looking good. Which stage are you on?

Smiling woman. Caption: 2 stages to looking good. Which stage are you at?

Hello amazing women, I hope you’ve had a good week.

This week I have been thinking about what it is exactly that transforms our personal appearance from ‘perfectly acceptable’ to ‘Wow, how does she do that!?’ (aka the act of self creation)

I love the authenticity of being yourself. Of having the courage to be yourself. To be able to accept yourself just as you are. But also to also have the determination to change yourself. To go on that inner and outer journey to be the best woman that you can be.

How do we go on that journey of not only accepting ourself, but also be transforming ourself?

Read moreSelf creation: 2 stages to looking good. Which stage are you on?

The anxieties of starting a new job remotely

The anxieties of starting a new job remotely

This is a slightly delicate subject to talk about this week, so I’m going to be careful how I use my words but it’s basically I suppose about life during Covid and how we approach it. And then it’s about the tools that we have at our disposal to deal with what we are going through.

two cups of coffee that we drank while we discussed working remotelySo, I met up with a friend the other day for a cup of coffee and she had recently been through quite a tricky time at work where she was hired as human resources director with a new firm. Because of the way many of us are working now, ie remotely, all her onboarding was remote, and then she started working, remotely.

And of course, working remotely for most of us is a really great thing. We get to be at home, not have to travel, we can walk the dog at lunch time, drop children off at school, all those things which is really great. For many of us we were working in the office environment before Covid affected our working lives. But for those people changing roles and companies in this new working environment, ie remotely, the work experience we are having is very different to the work experience we would have if we were in the office. My friend had done all her onboarding remotely and started work remotely.

Read moreThe anxieties of starting a new job remotely

Can reDRESS really help me?

abstract image with text :How to feel better every dayCan reDRESS really help me?

Hello amazing women,

I am sitting here writing the copy for reDRESS which is the Working Frocks private members group. (For more information about reDRESS check out the reDRESS about page) I am writing about why you should join us, why I’m passionate about you joining us and the change in your life that can and will happen as a result of you being in the group.

But here’s the thing.  As I write, I doubt. And I panic slightly.  Why is that?

My eyes are a bit tired and puffy (it’s early morning), the day is ahead of me but I feel tired already (hello teenager returning home at 00:45am and slamming front door), I have a day full of work and very little ‘fun’, and all the problems in my life have all hit my brain at the same time.

I am wondering if there is an escape route, and it’s only 6:43am.

Read moreCan reDRESS really help me?

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