Self discipline as self kindness
In a list of things I wish I’d been told as a child
this one ranks really highly
Self kindness is not what we sometimes think it is
Self pity masquerading as kindness
Kindness is not
I deserve it
when it is
chocolate, cake, biscuits, a glass of wine, another coffee
Neither is self kindness a cry of
I’ve got nothing to wear or
Nothing suits me or
Everyone looks better than me
Those thoughts are dreadful and do not serve you
See below for how we can help on that front
Self kindness is
getting out of bed to exercise or
establishing a quiet time routine and
making space in your diary to do something you want to do
Self kindness is not eating that doughnut
Self kindness is wearing the best clothes you can and the clothes you love
and showing up each day as your authentic self
I thought it was kindness
Now I look back I realise how much I coddled myself
thinking it was kindness
I know you’ve had a bad day don’t worry here have this glass of wine and spaghetti with a lot of cream
Had a hard day
Poor you never mind just go and sit on the sofa and read a magazine
No
An end to all that
Self compassion is doing what will be in your best interests long term
Had a hard day
Poor you get in that gym go for that run
Had a bad day
poor you clean the house tidy up make life better for yourself
How can self love be discipline like that
It seems a bit topsy turvy
But there it is
Self kindness is
doing the exercise and feeling great afterwards
Self kindness is
eating the right food
and feeling healthy
Self kindness is having water
and not wine
It’s not deprivation
Yes that’s right
These kind of disciplines lead to you looking and feeling amazing every day
Now that’s self kindness
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