Change your life when you don’t know what to change
A lot has changed for me in the past few years, much of it outside of my control and most of it challenging in one way or another.
Do you feel the same?
I feel nervous and anxious about the future. I worry about dying, about my life being over before it has truly started. I worry about the children leaving home. I am sad that I can see myself ageing, my life seems so fleeting.
Do you have those thoughts too?
I never used to have them. I thought I was invincible. And now everything seems so precarious.
And yet they are just thoughts.
So do I accept them as truth or as thoughts?
Do I challenge them as thoughts?
And because they are just thoughts can I think something else?
And if I did think something else what would I think?
Change your life when you don’t know what to change
Does that sound a bit heavy? Or do you think that too? Do you think there must be more to life than this?
Do you want to change your life but don’t know what you want to change and don’t know how you would change it?
Of course you can join the Working Frocks members list at any time which is a great way to change your life by taking really good care of yourself and what you wear. Each week I email you with hints and tips for upleveling your personal style and encouraging you to be the best version of yourself. You can join here:
Not dealing with our thoughts
Changing our life starts with dealing with our thoughts, but not dealing with our thoughts is very common. I think many of us have been in this situation and often we don’t know how to deal with it. We don’t know how to deal with the random, dispiriting and depressing thoughts we are having. So we don’t deal with them. We brush them under the carpet and hope they will go away.
But thoughts like this don’t go away.
They sit, just below the surface of our lives, and they fester and grow into something else: low self esteem, mild forms of depression, over eating, over drinking.
The Value and power of transformation
In my work as a designer I saw, time and time again, the immense value that transformation played when women wore the outfit that I had created for them. I realised that clothes have a power to transform that is quite real.
Then when I had a mini crisis of my own, I used what I know about clothes and how they can transform our inner selves, our inner lives, to turn my life around.
What I knew in theory and in practice from observing others, I experienced for myself as reality.
This has been my motivator to create first Working Frocks, and then reDRESS and now The Stylish Wellness Institute: I want every woman who needs to experience that personal transformation in her life, to be able to experience it.
I want every woman who wants to change her life to have the tools to be able to change it.
Change is an inner game
What I realised is that change is an inner game.
It’s all taking place in your mind.
All decisions to change start with a thought that you think.
But then this is what I realised:
When that change starts to happen, you will want to wear something different.
The change you want to see expands from an inner game to an outer game.
I also realised that the dissatisfaction I felt with my clothes, was also a sign of dissatisfaction with my life.
You need to be observant about your own thoughts and then you can pick up the signs.
Start with your clothes
So then I wondered, If you want to change your life but don’t know what you want to change, can you start with your clothes?
Can you change what you wear and change your life in the process?
And the answer is, yes I believe you can.
You can take your life and the dissatisfactions you feel and you can transform it all into something quite beautiful, into a life that you really want.
So, how are you feeling? Do you want to change your life in some way? Either you know what you want to change but don’t know how to go about it, or you don’t know what you want to change. You just have a vague sense of unease and can’t quite put your finger on it?
Would you be interested to know more about how you can achieve that transformation quite simply by starting with your clothes?
It is a simple transformation, but it will require some work from you.
But it is a remarkable transformation nonetheless.
I mean, who doesn’t want to look like the best version of herself?
What is often advertised to us as unattainable is actually completely achievable:
A you that you love and a life that you love too.
Creating the Stylish Wellness Institute: How to change your life when you don’t know what to change
This is why I have created the Stylish Wellness Institute. The Institute is my women-only membership club. The SWI has been created to help every woman who knows there is a better life out there, who wants to transform her personal style, who wants to be the person they have been created to be, to become that person. There is no greater joy than the feeling of loving oneself. In fact the whole of our life journey is about becoming onesself. So let’s make sure that the journey leads us to the place where we want to go.
I would be delighted if you joined me in the Stylish Wellness Institute. You can get on the waiting list for when doors open. So join our waitlist today, here.
I look forward to seeing you in the Stylish Wellness Institute, to getting to know you and to helping you achieve your personal style transformation as part of creating a life that you love.
In the meantime, think about your thoughts. Do you have a vague sense of unease? Is there something you want to change but you don’t know what? Can you think how much more you would enjoy your life if you felt better about everything?
Don’t forget, you can join the Working Frocks members list anytime by signing up here: