Do you remember what you wanted to do and what you loved doing as a child? I do. I remember seeing Karl Lagerfeld on TV a long time ago and wanting to be a designer. I loved ballet and wanted to teach it. And I have always loved magazines. And real estate. But back to the magazines.
My mother used to buy, and still does, women’s magazines. I grew up reading her magazines and then when I was old enough, I started to buy my own.
We know it’s good to wait for what we want. To delay getting something. We know that patience is a great thing. But for some of us, delayed gratification is hiding another issue which is low self esteem. We think we don’t deserve something and so we create situations where we continually don’t get things or achieve things. This proves to us that we don’t deserve things in life ‘like everyone else does’. And so the cycle continues.
Read on for how to spot the signs that delayed gratification might just be hiding your self esteem, and how to stop this cycle with a simple method.
Do you stop yourself from having what you want because of low level, sometimes unconscious chatter in your brain that tells you, “It doesn’t apply to me.”?
Do you look at someone else’s life and see areas where they are successful, the kind of success you yourself would like but think “Oh that kind of success, that kind of luck, it doesn’t apply to me.”?
The answer to this question may lie in how you think about yourself and how you think about life.
Do you think life is about achievement, doing, working, getting? Or do you think that life is about experiencing, feeling, being?
Setting personal goals, and then achieving them, can be hard work especially with everything else that clamours for our time. It’s easy to deprioritise ourselves in order to prioritise others: work; family; responsibilities.
Building momentum, through continually achieving goals you set yourself, can be impossible if you don’t have a framework that will ensure your success.
So today I’m sharing with you the framework for our new course, “Lose 5, Stylise, Organise” to show you how you can set and achieve your personal goals.
Here we are at the start of a new year. If there is one time in the year when we make goals, plans and dreams it is this time of year.
Exercise, diet and financial goals are big topics for new year’s resolutions.
We start with the greatest of intentions but statistics show that the majority of people forget their new year’s resolutions after about 3 weeks and then return to their old pattern of behaviour.
Creating your own personal clothing protocol, maintaining an organised wardrobe and understanding your own unique style are empowering resolutions to make and here at Working Frocks we are designing systems and courses for you to join which will help you design, create and implement your “new you”.
How did you decide what you want in life? Did you go after it with everything you’ve got, grab every chance with both hands and pursue your decision relentlessly?
A world full of people, and women in particular, deciding what they want, going for it, achieving it and celebrating themselves is a real possibility. But not all of us have either decided what we really want or are relentlessly pursuing it to fruition.
Happy new year!
2022
What will you do? The year stretches out in front of you. 365 days for you to do exactly what you want.
So what is it that you want to do?
I have been thinking very much these past few weeks. About changing my style. And about why I would want to change it now. What is the catalyst that is driving this restlesness that I feel and disatisfaction with what I wear and how I look.
Change.
It’s the change. My life is changing. My business is growing and I want to show up in a better kind of way. My personal life is changing and there might be a wedding on the horizon. And it is creating a dissatisfaction with the status quo. With how things have been. Clothes that I once wore seem wrong. Dated. Out of place. Dull.
How are you feeling about the new year? Do you want a fresh start? Is something niggling you, irritating you and you don’t know quite what?
Clothes are not just clothes. We use them to express how we feel as much as to cover up our bodies and be comfortable.
So if you feel uncomfortable in your clothes. Or out of sorts. And something doesn’t feel quite right, the chances are that something is happening in your life. So don’t ignore that sense of disatisfaction.
The important question is what are you going to do about it? What do you want to do about it?
I can help with that. I can help you organise your thoughts and your clothes. The two added together will make quite an impact on your life.
So keep a journal. Say, for a week. Write down your thoughts. How you are feeling. What you want to achieve this year. What’s on your mind. I’m going to be explaining what you can do with these thoughts and writings over the month of January. So take this week to explore your own mind.
And then we will get to work. And set your course for 2022.
Happy new year!
Do you wake up in the morning and your heart sinks when you start to think about the day, about getting up, and what you are going to wear?
Does your day unravel before it’s even started?
Do you wish you could go back to bed and not have to face the day?
